Sex with a strap-on is like any other kind of sex: you need to mix it up sometimes to keep things interesting. After all, variety is the spice of life and a key component in overall sexual satisfaction in a relationship.
If you find yourself in a long-term relationship asking the age-old question, “do we have enough sex?” then it’s probably time to mix it up. But when it comes to sex toys, it’s sometimes easy to forget that they’re as versatile as anything else! Think of your strap-on as an extension of you or your partner, depending on who’s wearing it.
With that in mind, the sky’s the limit. So let’s talk about some strap-on positions to keep things interesting!
1. Classic Doggy Style
While doggy style is a classic for many people of every orientation, it’s possible to forget that the usual suspects are available to you if you’ve been pretty restricted and straightforward in your strap-on usage. You or your partner can get onto all fours while the partner using the strap-on positions themself to enter from behind.
This position is ideal for anal and vaginal penetration. If you’re going for anal sex, it’s important to prepare first, especially in a position like doggy style that can allow deeper penetration than you might expect. You’ll want to build up slowly to your desired size and communicate with your partner throughout.
The Strap U Tri-Play Silicone Dildo Set gives you an easy way to build up to a bigger size and get comfortable with penetration for play that’s both sexy and safe. And while this dildo set works for both anal and vaginal penetration, it’s important to remember to never mix and match during the same session.
Anything you use for anal penetration must be washed thoroughly after every use and not used for any other purpose to avoid infection.
2. Elevate Your Go-To
Studies show that having sex in the missionary or face-to-face style is one of the most popular sexual positions. But the missionary position can sometimes get a bad rap for being boring.
We don’t think there’s anything wrong with missionary; it can be great! But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to elevate it and kick it up a notch.
The partner being penetrated should prop up their hips with a pillow or two. This changes the angle in a way that makes it a totally new experience — if you have a vagina, propping up your hips in this way can be mind-blowing! And if you’re using your strap-on for anal penetration, this angle can also provide a better, more intimate position.
3. Bend and Strap-On
Another variation on a classic, bending your body in different ways can lead to different penetration angles that can elevate your strap-on game. There are many different ways to accomplish this, and part of finding the right one for you is just experimenting.
But we’re happy to give some recommendations, such as laying on your back with your legs in the air. Your partner can spread your legs and hold them over their shoulders, or, if you’re flexible, they can push your legs up to your shoulders and effectively bend you in half. It creates an angle that will take your breath away — but you may want to stretch first.
You can also lift just one leg in the air to allow for penetration, which gives the partner wearing the strap-on something to hold onto while they thrust. And if you or your partner have a clitoris, it’s a great angle for stimulating your clit while you move.
Whether or not this position is comfortable for the partner who’s bottoming can often depend on the size and shape of the strap-on being used — some dildos may be too intense from certain angles. Consider which strap-on will be best for you and your partner once you find your favorite position!
4. Use a Table or Chair
Another great way to mix it up is to use a table, chair, or even a countertop to elevate the partner who’s being penetrated to waist height for the partner who’s wearing the strap-on. This creates a perfect, easy angle and removes any burden for either partner to support themself. Ideal for lazy sex, post-leg-day sex, or just really great sex; you get all of the pleasure with none of the physical stress.
We love the Strap On Me Silicone Bendable Strapless Strap On because it allows you to decide the perfect angle. The bendable technology of this dildo allows you to use and set the dildo in different positions, so even if the surface your partner is sitting on isn’t perfect, the angle will be.
5. Riding High
Whatever the gender-neutral version of cowgirl is, that’s what we’re talking about. Often the partner wearing the strap-on goes on top, in the active position, by default, but it doesn’t need to be that way.
Have the partner with the strap-on lay on their back while you get on top and settle onto the strap-on dildo in whatever way feels best to you. This allows the partner being penetrated to control the depth and angle of the thrust. While it’s a great way to mix it up, it’s also ideal if you’re using the strap-on for anal penetration and it’s a new experience for you.
If you want to go one step further, you can flip it and reverse it. The strap-on-wearing partner will still lay on their back, while the other partner lowers themself onto the dildo with their back to their partner’s face. This provides a new angle for penetration you don’t often experience while still giving that partner the control of depth and speed. Plus, it’s a great view for the partner who’s wearing the strap-on!
In Conclusion
Whether you’re in a queer relationship or like to switch up the roles, using a strap-on can be a great way to liven up your sex life. But it doesn’t end there — introducing a strap-on is only part of it. You’ll also want to try new things with it and experiment with new positions.
Not only is it good for your relationship to experiment and try new things in the bedroom, but it’s a great way to figure out what works best for you. Maybe the best possible angle that will absolutely change your (sex) life is one of the ones you haven’t tried yet!
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